It’s evidence that most marriages are at stake due to the fact that marriage expectations during courtship is contrary to the actual reality in life. Many marriages end up with divorce cases which could easily be evaded by adhering to basic principles of marriage. The following are the ten Golden Secrets of Marriage to those who are married and/or are preparing to get married soon.
- EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS
It’s only God who has no weakness. Otherwise every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you can’t get the best out of his/ her strength.
- EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY
No one in this world is an angel, for that reason, avoid digging one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. Try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be changed. Concentrate on the present and the future things in your life. This will save you from a lot of stress.
- EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES
Marriage is not a bed of roses as it is assumed by most youth who have intention to marry or get married. Every shinning marriage has gone through its own test of hot and agonizing fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage; make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Always remember that this is the vow you made on your wedding day.
- EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS
Don’t compare your marriage with anyone. We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To evade marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.
- TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR
When you decide to marry or get married, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are; ignorance, prayerlessness, un forgiving, adultery, third party influence, stinginess, stubbornness, lack of true love, rudeness, wife battery, laziness, divorce etc. be prepared to fight with it in order to maintain your marriage zone.
- THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE
There is no single readymade marriage anywhere in the world. Marriage is a hard work where you have to volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a CAR with gear oil, gear box, back-hassles. If these parts are not functioning properly through regular maintenance practices, the car will breakdown somewhere along the road and expose the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. Many of us are careless about our marriage……if you are one of them please start paying a lot of attention to your marriage and all will be well.
- GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE
God gives you a man or a woman in the form of raw materials in order for you to mold what you desire. You may desire a woman or a man who can pray for an hour or more but your wife or husband can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer, and encouragement, she/he can improve. Same applies to other personal characters.
- TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK
No one can predict what will happen after marriage. Situations may change along the way, so, leave room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years. You may marry her because she’s slim but she becomes 100% fatter after childbirth. He may lose his job for years that you have to take care of the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. However, if God is on your side, you will smile at last because He is the only source of confidence in marriage.
- MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT
Marriage needs undivided commitment to each other. True love is the only glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. So never think of divorce in your marriage life. Never threaten your spouse with divorce regardless of the circumstances. Always choose to remain married until death separates you. Finally, God hates divorce.
- EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY
Marriage is like a bank account whereby it is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdraw. Thus, if you don’t deposit love, peace, and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a peaceful home. There is no free love in marriage. You can’t pretend to love without giving and sacrificing.
May the good Lord give us grace and wisdom to build a heaven on earth in marriage.