Many people wonder how they can feel less lonely. We mistakenly think that just because someone is surrounded by other people, they are automatically not lonely. However, this could not be further from the truth. So many people are married and lonely. You can see Craigslist posts reading something like “married but lonely man”…I mean loneliness is all about missing that connection and understanding with your close ones. It is about not being seen by people closest to you emotionally. It is about not sharing values and having different personalities. So really, I guess it is a lack of true friendship that defines loneliness. So how do you feel less lonely? My best suggestion would be to find people who share your values and view of the world. People who you can genuinely respect and admire. This is the only real solution. Without this, you will forever find yourself surrounded by fake relationships trying to appease people you don’t even like. That is one sad way to live, yet so many people do it without even a second thought. They may not realize that there is a better way.
So many men and women are depressed and feel hopeless inside, yet cannot identify the reason why. I guess maybe it is because we have been brought up to ignore our feelings and just move on with the day. However, it is important to trust your feelings and really feel whatever it is you are feeling so you can face that reality and live your truth. So many people are in love with the idea of marriage and children. However, somewhere along the way they lose sight of what marriage and love should be all about. Whatever happened to feeling like you are cared for and loved for who you are? That love we are so desperately seeking is ever beyond our reach. We get married and spend years trying to please our significant other by constantly changing into the version of ourselves that they want us to be. In the end, we never feel loved because we are not accepted for who we are. No matter how many changes we make to please our partner, they are never happy and we are just never quiet good enough. So why get married to begin with? If the whole point of marriage is love and we feel none, doesn’t this defeat the whole purpose?
So there are some common ideas that are out there about how to feel less lonely. You can take yourself out to dinner or treat yourself to some pampering like a mani or pedi. You can do things or surround yourself with things that relax you, you can go to the gym, or you can just go out for a walk or sit in some public place to feel surrounded by the energy of other people even though you are not actually speaking to them. Other ideas would be to read self help articles, read, or watch television. I mean yes, these things can help to an extent because by taking care of yourself and putting yourself out there you are increasing your chances of meeting people with a similar mindset and hopefully that would resolve your loneliness issue in the long run.