Life in college is always difficult, no matter where you attend.
Life at college however is the best time of your life, but not for the reasons you think.
Let me explain to you some of the things or life changing things that have happened to either me personally or people who I have known through out my years so far as a student at university. I want to share with you some of the great outcomes of going to college and some mistakes people make before going to college as well.
1. People come from all walks of life.
This doesn’t seem like a big deal, but becoming friends with a forty year old woman who sits next to you in class gives you a different perspective on life. They are changing their lives even when they seem to us as older people; this means that if you find out in your freshman or sophomore year that school is not for you, leave before you get in too deep. There is always time to go back. You’re only what, 18? 19? 20 maybe?
2. You do not have to have your career choice set in stone by the time you graduate high school. You don’t even need to know what path your going down!
I have met many friends who have run into this problem. Either they go into college because their parents are pushing them to and they don’t know what they want to do. Some people on the other hand just don’t have any interest in college. THAT IS PERFECTLY FINE. Do not push yourself into some field you don’t have interest in, if you do you could end up wasting financial aid that could be used later on. Do not let parents or anyone else tell you that having a college degree will help you earn more money. This is only true in some cases and if you don’t know what you want to do yet, wait.
3. Do not go to college unless the career you want requires you to do such.
I am in college because the job I want to obtain someday requires me to have a four year college degree. However it is not this way with many jobs in the working world, and there is no shame in that.
I cannot weld. I cannot fix my car or my toilet. So I call people for that such as welders, mechanics and plumbers who can do the things I literally have no business doing.
4. You will find that everyone is smart in a different way.
This relates to the very last thing I said about plumbers, welders, and mechanics. I have no business doing any of those jobs because my brain does not work where I can comprehend all of that type of information. I commend people who do things like I can’t do like fix cars, because I wish I had skills like those. So respect those who think in an artsy way or with a mathematical brain, or those who learn through music or by making flashcards. Not everyone has an academic brain, and if you don’t find what speaks to you.
5. This may surprise you, but many people in college have only had really one serious relationship before they got here. We are all inexperienced, so if it gets awkward that’s normal.
Young men and women in college come from all over the pace, including from halfway across the globe for international students. This coming together of so many different kinds of people your own age gives you the opportunity to blossom a new relationship or friendship. Just be aware that not everyone is at the same stage in life as you. People also may have more or less experience than you in relationships as well as with life struggles.
The best thing to do when someone really starts to open up to you is be interested in what they have to say. If you find out you’re not 100% invested in what they say, do not waste their time or yours.
6. Time is precious. So is time in the library or anywhere with a computer lab.
Make sure you know a readily available computer lab at all times. We’ve all been in a spot in college where we forgot that our paper was due at 8 am or that we have a quiz due in an hour with 100 questions. Never fear, for the computer lab and library are here. These are great places to get your work done and also to meet new people since everyone is in the same boat as you. I promise.
7. Frats and Sorority’s are a lot of fun, and you don’t need to be a member to be friends with members.
I have a lot of friends in sororities and fraternities to which I am not a member. Some people do tend to only speak to members because that is a set group of people who have to be their friend. Do not pay any attention to these types of people. They are not worth your time and there is always someone more fun you can hangout with, you just have to find them.
8. You are at college only for yourself so work for yourself like it’s the last thing you will ever do.
Only people with work ethic make it through college all the way. The work gets harder and the days get longer, but those who know what they want out of life in the next few years after graduation keep going. They keep working and keep striving for better grades, dean’s list, and volunteer hours. You do what you can for you all day every day.
9. Take time to shower everyday in the dorm.
I know this seems like something that would be simple but sometimes it is not. Life gets busy and people are busy, sometimes taking a shower is the only relaxation time you get in the day. Make sure to pencil a 20 minute hot shower where you can every single day. I promise it’s worth it.
10. Take time to heal.
College is a huge adjustment for everyone who attends and lives on campus. You might cry or see your roommates cry and that’s okay. Give yourself time to heal and adjust from not being at home, it’s alright.
If you have a big test and you flunked it, take time to heal and make a plan to do better next time.
If you get your heart broken by a college fling take time to heal. Cry it out with friends and use your meal plan for a milkshake. I promise you, it will get easier.
All in all, what I want you to take out of what I have written is that college is not for everyone and that is okay. Also, if you’re attending college make sure it’s for the right reasons and for yourself, not someone else. But the most important thing I have to let you in on is to be accepting of everyone different form you that you meet. You can do this.