What do you think about great Valentines Day movies? I am a total romantic, so for me “Titanic” would immediately come to mind. Call me sentimental, but that’s just how I feel. Most romantic movies out there are not even that romantic and this is because in our culture we have kind of a screwed up idea of what romance really means. There is always a couple who usually acts in a way that is crazy or immature and treats each other like shit. Later towards the end they somehow make up, make love, and have a happy ending.
The reality is that most of these so called romantic couples should have never gotten together in the first place. Romance should not be about drama, insecurity, and playing with other people’s feelings. It should be about kindness, consideration, and understanding. So lets go over some storylines of some popular Valentine’s Day movies:
“Love and Basketball”, for example, has a young athletic couple having a love hate relationship since they were High School kids. Sounds like fun, but in reality this could be so soul draining and emotionally exhausting to keep this kind of relationship going for very long. Romance should be just love and if there is hate, you have got to wonder what keeps you stuck in such kind of a relationship to begin with.
What about the movie “Cactus Flower”? This film is all about how a confused 21 year old falls in love with an older man. I mean where are her parents in this? I feel like these kinds of movies give youngsters the wrong idea about what a healthy relationship looks like. Once these youngsters hit their thirties, they realize that their life looks like a hot mess. I do believe that irresponsible parenting and the media are largely to blame!
Have you seen “Lost in Translation”? This movie is about how this chick traveled to a foreign country and started dating this ugly old man just because she was lonely and was looking for a connection. I mean this is not exactly a healthy way to resolve loneliness, however, this is a good way to attract a psychopath or a serial killer. Good job Scarlett!
I like the idea of “When in Rome”. I think this movie is somewhat on the right track of what true romance is all about. I mean some chick who happens to be an ambitious New Yorker steals some coins and because of these coins like five dudes go chasing after her because the are under some sort of love spell! You go girl! Let me have it! At least have these dogs work for it lol! You know after that they will be totally useless and will likely sleep around and screw you over anyhow.
“First Dates” is actually a very sweet and funny romantic movie where the girl has some Amnesia issue and keeps reliving the same day over and over again. Somehow the boyfriend who was originally a player sticks around for the ride. I mean what are the odds, right? Usually players don’t change and this movie gives young impressionable girls the idea that they can change players into loving committed partners. Again, the odds are stacked against them! Likely not happening in this lifetime, but good luck trying! I say spend your energy fixing your self esteem so that you can feel worthy of a really great partner that will make you feel secure!
“Slumdog Millionaire” is a movie that shows one poor Indian guy make it to the U.S to win a girl. I like that he had to struggle to get there, so maybe he will think twice before being an asshole to her!
Have you seen “Crazy Stupid Love”? This is where Emma Stone tries to turn a player into a real man. Once again I wish that they would already stop making these movies about how a woman has some magical power to change a man. The truth is that these men are like this for a reason. Usually, this reason has nothing to do with women and more to do with their poor character. Players usually stay players because it is convenient for them not to ever have to man up and do right by any woman. They get to enjoy the fun times of the relationship without having to take care of any responsibilities that come with real commitment. Maybe these players will suffer later and die alone, but for now they are breaking many hearts and getting away with it. I think women just need to leave the players alone and let them grow up on their own. It should not be anyone’s job to fix any other person. A woman is not a life-coach, therapist, or a parent. She deserve to simply be a partner and be treated with respect and dignity. Players in general are not capable of these things.
Okay, I guess you get the idea by now that most great Valentines Day movies are full of shit and are more like dramas or comedies in disguise.